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April 2016

My Life

Short ‘n’ Sassy

Just thought I would check in with you all and say, “how you doing?” *Wendy Williams voice*.

Of late I have been wearing a lot of wigs. I have wigs for working out. Wigs for performing domestic chores. Wigs for running errands etc etc.

Basically I have a wig for anything that you can think of.

Why?

Well now that I am a new mum I don’t have the time or the energy to sit around for hours whilst I braid my hair or install a weave. The reality is that it will take ages as I will have to stop start, stop start as I cater to baby girl. Nobody has got time for that. But as my husband says, “tales of your incompetence don’t interest me”. Which is immediate met with an eye roll from me.

When?

Naturally I still want to look fly for my hubby even with his snide comments. Side eye. Some time ago I purchased a whole gang of wigs from Hair Sisters. Not really sure what inspired me but I got really into it.

How?

Each week I wash, condition and moisturize my natural hair. I comb out my Afro puff puff and proceed to do 8-10 corn rows depending on how I be feeling on that day. Once done each brand new morning I apply my wig cap and carefully place my chosen wig.

What?

Well on this particular day I was feeling my short and sassy look. Do you feel like a different hair style brings out a different side of your personality? Me too

What had happened was I was taking out some laundry and the sun rays were shinning just right. Naturally I reached into my back pocket grabbed my iPhone and started snapping. I had a feeling that something good had to come out of this.

 

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Nom Nom

Basic Vanilla Cup Cakes

My sweet tooth is the main reason I can not be Serena Williams or Beyoncé great – body wise that is. Lollies, white chocolate and delicious biscuits get me every time. One here, one there and the calories just add up. I promise it’s all in moderation otherwise they would need to cut me out the house and have a helicopter on standby.

Spending time at home with baby girl means I have time to bake at home. Dangerous combination. When it comes to home made cakes I like to keep it basic. No creams, no frosting, no decorations – nothing. Just give me the sponge cake please – I am sweet enough. Here I give you my basic vanilla cupcake recipe.

Ingredients

  • 125 g unsalted butter (softened)
  • 1 cup caster sugar
  • 3 egg
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1 1/2 cup plain flour
  • 1 tsp baking powder
  • 125 ml milk

Method 

  1. Preheat oven to 180°C (160°C fan-forced).
  2. Place cupcake papers in two 12-hole cupcake trays.
  3. In an electric mixer, beat butter for 2 minutes until pale in colour and creamy. Add sugar one third at a time, beating well between each addition. Add the eggs one at a time, beating for about a minute between each addition. Add the vanilla essence and beat until combined.
  4. Sift flour and baking powder and add half to butter mixture with half the milk. Mix until well combined. Repeat with remaining flour and milk.
  5. Fill cupcake papers three-quarters full.
  6. Bake cupcakes for 15 -20 minutes or until a skewer inserted into the middle of a cupcake comes out clean.
  7. Transfer to wire racks and allow to cool completely.

After the last step all bets are off, guard your vanilla cup cake with you life. Once you taste one you will know what I mean. Enjoy!

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Fashion

Cream Get On Top…

By now I think you have heard about the untimely passing of a music legend – Prince. When I heard the news at first I thought it was a hoax. He was 57, lived a strictly healthy lifestyle (well so I thought) – why are these attention seekers doing this? When I found out it was true, I couldn’t help but feel a sense of sadness and loss.

If I told you I was a massive fan of Prince’s music I would be lying. I listen to music from various genres so I know a lot of his music. I can appreciate and easily sing along to it as he had some catchy melodies. Everyone has said it and I will say it again – he was a talented musician wether he was performing, ghost producing or writing for others.

If I am honest though it was Prince’s sartorial style that really fascinated and excited me. He is the only black man that I know who relaxed his hair, wore make up, pranced around in flamboyant get ups paired with heels but no one even battered an eyelid. That was just Prince. He was the epitome of loving oneself and unapologetically being the true version of yourself.

His “drink no chaser” sense of dressing gave confidence to those who lacked it to try new things. Years later looking at his archive of style it has inspired people like me to wear what I want and how I want to wear it. Individuality matters.

Prince was true style icon who will continue to inspire present and future generations to come. For that I would like to personally thank him – my personal style and closet is better because of him. May he rest in peace.

I end this post by sharing my favorite iconic style moments that Prince presented to the world.

 

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Guest Blogger

Get Your Mind Right…

Tendai is one of my favourite people in the world. We are both proud members of the gap tooth brigade so naturally every time we meet we chop it up and laugh so hard that we go home with sore cheeks.

I was in Melbourne just last week celebrating hubby’s birthday and we had dinner with the lady of the moment, Tendai. During the dinner we started talking about things that we were passionate about and I could see Tendai literally foaming at the mouth discussing Mental Health. Seeing this passion lead me to ask her to write a piece for this blog.

I will now hand it over to the Tendai.

Hi everyone! My name is Tendai and I am your guest blogger for his month. When Tinashe asked me to be a guest blogger on this fantastic blog, I was so excited… Me? A writer? Yeah! Bring it on!. Then reality set in..&^% a few other profanities here and there. What will I write about? What if I don’t make sense? What if its just boring? I spent hours and days pondering these questions, until I said. Tendai, write what you are passionate about – I am passionate about mental health. My mental health.

There were days when I would wake up feeling off, when I would rather roll over, cover my head and for just that day.. I didn’t have to exist. For a while I would spend hours trying to figure out why I felt “off” and really have a go at myself for not trying to feel better. What’s wrong with you? I would say…There are people out there who have it worse than you so get it together! What do you have to be sad about? You are hopeless! Weak! I could go on…. Occasionally this would extend to situations where things didn’t go my way. It became a habit of putting myself down. The constant self-berating had to stop, something HAD to give…

Over time, with failure and success I have learned that caring for my mental health is important. It is just as important as caring about my physical health. When my body is run down or under stress, my immune system is comprised and I get sick. It’s either I get cold sores, or flu like symptoms or both. And when I get sick, I take a sickie, chill out, rest and recover! I take a time out! I have learned to do the same for my mental health. I have learned to strengthen my mental resilience by regularly taking mental timeouts or ‘me days’ as well as incorporating little ‘things‘ here and there.

My mental timeouts involve meditating throughout the day using an app called Stop Breathe and Think. This app has short targeted guided meditations. By doing this, I allow my mind and emotions to recalibrate and not dwell on too many negative things. My days are usually a Saturday or a Sunday once a month when I do absolutely anything my heart desires. I watch movies, listen to albums, read a chapter, stare at the ceiling, get a mani or pedi and chuck in a facial.. just some good me time. I realise that I’m fortunate my lifestyle allows me to do such and if pressed for time. A few hours can do for you.

I exercise. I make it a point to exercise 3-4 times a week 30-45mins at a time. I am probably the least physically active person I know but the benefits I experience motivate me to get moving. When I exercise, I feel good, sexy and energetic. Gotta love those natural endorphins 🙂

I stay connected. I catch up with friends and family. I make a conscious effort to follow up and lock in dates for catch-ups. We often say “let’s catch-up” and months will go by and nothing. So take the initiative, make that call, make that reservation, plan, organize.

I challenge myself. I am always looking for opportunities for professional development. I love my work and I strive to provide a quality service. In order for me to do that effectively and efficiently, I keep learning and exploring new concepts and ideologies. In addition, every now and then, I will put my hand up and volunteer in non-work related things.

I share my interests. Anyone who knows me, knows I have an abnormal passion for the game of tennis. I will gladly put my life on hold for a Serena Williams match. January is all about the Australian Open; you will find me there with plus two or three. Not forgetting the late nights for the other 3 major tennis tournaments. I do have other interests! I swear! Concerts, cultural/ food festivals and markets.

Lastly…Gratitude. Before I go to sleep. I spend sometime thinking about three things I am grateful for throughout the day. Using an app called Gratitude I can journal this. Not only do I go to bed with happy thoughts, but it forces me to reflect on the goodness of each day.

There you go those are my secrets to develop and maintain my mental wellbeing.

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I don’t know about you, but as someone that is always on the go – this blog post couldn’t have been more timely. I wanted to thank Tendai for being a guest blogger this month – she have provided some handy hints that will allow us to be present in the moment and grateful for all things big and small.

If you have any other techniques that you use and would like to share, please join the conversation by sharing in the comment section of this blog post!

Life Hack

Liquid Gold…

Have you ever been in a situation were your iPhone is full of pictures and you are forced to back it up? That was me today. I backed up the images after travelling down memory lane looking back on some photos and memories that were taken forever ago. Some of the fashion choices? Hideous. My eye brows? What was I thinking? The make up? All that comes to mind is Michael Jackson’s song – It doesn’t matter if you are black or white.

Seriously though – when it comes to my make up game I have really come a long way.

I was a real tomboy growing up and my mother being a firm believer in natural beauty, well lets just say she was equally challenged – so as you can probably imagine this make up thing was really foreign to me. In my late teens when I finally developed an interest in make up I relied on YouTube videos, magazines and tips from other women I knew who seemed to have it together to help me get up to speed. What do they say? If at first you don’t succeed, dust it off and try again. Wise words to live by.

When I first started wearing make up  I could never find a foundation that truly matched my skin colour. You see there wasn’t the influx of women of colour as there is now – so that meant a limited variety of foundation colours. Also there was this idea that women of colour didn’t need make up because we all had perfect ‘dark’ skin tone. Are they blind? Racist much?

After getting my money together I would go to a department store try on the ‘darkest’ foundation which because of the lighting looked like it would match my skin. As part of my trial then buy process I would apply the product on my face as a test run. The generous and all so flattering lighting would make it look like the “darkest” shade had really blended in. No lie, I would walk out the store with my head held up high like Beyoncé ok maybe Solange – i like her afrocentric vibe.

That is until I had random strangers giving me weird looks. First few looks I am thinking to myself damn I am slaying it today! A few more looks, some whispers and big “yes I am laughing at you because you look weird” grins and I begin to crack under the pressure. I then rush to the nearest public bathroom to check myself out in the mirror. Hard to believe but our phones back then did not have selfie view cameras. Gasp! As I made my way to the bathroom I would be thinking, dammit! I should have carried my compact mirror whilst asking myself, have I got a bugger? Is my hair not sitting correctly? The answer was always D – None of the above. Truth is under normal lighting the foundation I had tried and purchased did not match my skin colour no matter how much I thought I had blended it in – there was a little thing called my dark neck that was getting in the way of my foundation greatness. That same day I was back at the department store asking for a refund. The sales person knew better than to ‘try me again’ and gave me a complete refund.

So the moral of this story is don’t be like past tense Tinashe. I have compiled some of my favourite foundations that I have personally tried and tested. If applied correctly I am certain they won’t leave you looking half dead or ashy. In no particular order,  I present to you:

All Day Luminous Weightless Foundation

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This one is on heavy rotation because it gives full, natural-looking coverage with unexpectedly weightless all day wear.

M.A.C Prolong Wear Waterproof Foundation

MAC Pro Longwear Nourishing Waterproof Foundation

With all these Memes that encourage men to take their date to the beach on the first date so you know she’s real – the waterproof aspect makes this foundation appealing.

Studio Fix Fluid SPF 15

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This is the O.G foundation for all women of colour. It applies smoothly, builds coverage quickly and easily leaving a delicious matte finish.

Studio Sculpt SPF 15 Foundation

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A creamy, luxurious, gel-based foundation that provides medium to high coverage with a natural satin finish.

Maybelline Fit Me

 

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This is probably the most purse friendly of the foundations. It leaves you looking flawless whilst letting the real you come through- fresh, breathing, natural.

So don’t ever say I told you nothing! You really have no excuses for looking ashy as I have done the leg work for you and provided my tried and tested foundations.

I know there is plenty of amazing foundations that are out there. I am a creature of habit so I posted the foundations that I know work for me. I am open to trying new products – so if you have other foundations that you would like to recommend, hit me up in the comment section of this post or email me.

I leave you with a recent selfie I took when I got dolled up for mummy duty. You were make up and get dressed up to go to work, sit in your chair and type or what ever it is you do. I currently wear my make up to look after my baby girl at home. A job is a job of course of course!

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Obsessions

Generations, The Legacy…

Lets me honest everyone has those TV shows that they watch on their own or are too embarrassed to tell anyone about. Yet they tune every week in secret. Well I am no different. Early last year my pregnancy hormones had me craving Afrocentric TV shows and music. That is when I stumbled on the TV show “Generations The Legacy”. I have spent pretty much my whole life in diaspora so I was excited to find this show. My hubby, my friends  – not so much – as it was something they grew up with before they relocated to diaspora for their studies.

It started slowly but eventually I found myself watching the show religiously. Now, I am proud to say that its my not so secret obsession. Obsession may be a strong world. But I will say, from Tuesday to Saturday of each week I dedicate half an hour so I can stream the show from You Tube. During that half hour I engross myself in the ridiculous story lines and analyse the outfits of the impeccably dressed stars of the show. Truth is its basically another soapie but with a stellar all African cast – some actors acting better than others.

Dunno about you – but I feel like its always nice to see well dressed Africans on television doing their damn thing. Out here in diaspora the World Vision adverts are on heavy rotation.

So what is the show about?

‘Generations The Legacy, is about stimulating a conversation on the transfer of wealth, knowledge and culture. Successive generations in African society have produced men and women of great intelligence, vision and the drive for excellence‘ says both elated and relieved creator, Mfundi Vundla. I couldn’t have said it better myself, believe me – I tried.

People that have come to visit me have often scoffed at me saying, “why you watching that crap for?“. I didn’t even listen to the hate, I just tuned out as the jazz theme song signalled the start of the show. Whats hilarious is that the same people who made fun of me find themselves getting hooked and start watching the show at their houses. When the ridiculous storylines play out those same people are Whatsapping me to talk about it. Did you see that? Can you believe this happened? Now I am not going to name no names, you know who you are.

Before I went on maternity leave I was terrified that I would become one of those stay at home mums that is addicted to Ellen, Days Of Our Lives, Bold and the Beautiful etc, etc. I don’t want to offend readers who are into that. So let me clear its not my intention offend you. Its just my personal preference. I swore up and down that wasn’t going to be me. Whilst I never got into the above mentioned shows Generations the Legacy has become an integral part of our family life.

So much so that when I was home last month I managed to take the below picture with my daughter and my beloved mother – showcasing three generations of women in our family.

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