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April 2017

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Travel Diaries – Melbourne

First Family Portrait – 2017.

It’s been a little while since we have taken a family photo. I think this photo is the first of 2017, and I am happy that we were able to capture the moment.

Since we last spoke I switched up my hair, I’ve been head down – bum up and working hard. As a reward for our all work and no play attitude, we quietly snuck into Melbourne last Thursday night. It wasn’t without the usual last minute dot com rush of getting to the airport. Try packing and getting ready to fly out that with a tired toddler in tow. Let’s just say we just made the flight by God’s grace. I think husbae’s title may have helped:

“His Excellency” – we were treated like royalty.

I love Melbourne – it’s one of my favourite cities in Australia – and we try to visit at least once a year. The shopping, food and fashion seduce me every time. I’m here. The cultural infusion and just the general acceptance of individuality make me smile – Colgate ad smile. Someone with a massive Afro like me can walk past and no one will bat an eyelid.

Mummy and Daughter selfie.

With a toddler this Melbourne trip has been super chilled. Most nights we were going to bed in the wee hours of the morning because we spent time catching up with friends while we consumed adult beverages and abused Uber Eat. Normally around midday accompanied by our mild hangovers we would then hit up the local “hot spots” for brunch.

Mexican breakfast.

Not sure if it was just the hunger  but the food we ate during our Melbourne trip was super fresh and delicious. I had a mini break from my usual diet and it was totally worth it!

Orange, ginger, lemon and turmeric juice.

On one occasions whilst we were eating lunch, Tasima, being the social butterfly that she is, struck a friendship with two young girls at the restaurant. As adults it can be hard to make new friends. I forget that youngins can meet even for a brief minute and become close friends. So much so one of them was compelled to draw a picture of her and give it to her:

The drawing master piece.

Honestly, it was a heart melting moment – one of the sweetest things I have ever witnessed. As a mother I was proud that our baby girl had made such a lasting impression.

Whilst we were in Melbourne one of our dear friends was celebrating her 30th birthday. As parents we managed to stop by her birthday party and have a quick drink, sing happy birthday have a dance and be out the club in less than an hour. I love celebrating birthdays because I feel like if you don’t take time out today to build memories, to feel grateful and feel special, you may have nothing to reminisce about tomorrow.

The birthday girl blowing her birthday cake candles.

On the surface, travel is about seeing new places and  giving a bit back at the same time. But underneath it is so much more, opening your horizons to experience completely different cultures, cuisines and landscapes. While photos are proof that you went and saw, it’s the transformation that takes place within that is often the strongest evidence of why travel is important.

Outfit details: Cape – Target, Jumper – Seed, Grey Tracksuit Pants – Bonds, Lace Edge Socks – Kmart, Sneakers – Nike.

Fashion

Competent and Confident: How To Develop Your Uniform Style

I wear African print all day every day.

It’s who I am in fabric – bold, unapologetic, brave, unwavering, unafraid, courageous, agile, dynamic, and not afraid to stand out from the crowd.

The journey to wear only African print took me three decades. Yes, it took me three decades to fully embrace myself. All of me. It took me three decades to not give a damn about what anyone thought of me and just go for it in the corporate world.

If I am honest, motherhood had such a profound impact on me. I always knew and said that I was a strong black woman. After bringing life into this world I can actually say for the first time that when I said it, I actually believed it. It’s then that I decided that I was going to be the truest version of myself, so I could instil confidence in my youngin’ – to be the best version of her true myself.

The first step was to review my outward appearance. The clothes, the shoes, and the jewellery I adorned.
Fashion blogging is a hobby of mine, so I had rooms filled with “things” I had accumulated over the years. Now as a wife,mother, working professional I wanted to create a “uniform”, so this meant a LOT of things had to go.

I recently read an essay titled “Boring is Productive,” by Robert C. Pozen and this quote stood out to me – “Making too many decisions about mundane details is a waste of a limited resource: your mental energy.” These black and white words spoke volumes to me and made me more determined to find a personal uniform that would work for a busy schedule. Call me vain but I still want to be a stylish working mother.

Below you will find my tips that helped me to develop my uniform style:

Invest
When I was much younger and earning way less money, I would buy heaps of cheap crap. Wear things once and then just store. Times have changed, I have moved up the tax bracket and I now choose to invest in higher quality versions of my signature pieces. This means they last much longer and I can justify my purchase by working out my cost per wear.

Feel Good In What You Wear
If you don’t understand your body shape or where to start with your “uniform” start by selecting things that make you feel the best and hide those trouble spots that make you uncomfortable. Pick out pieces of clothing that you receive positive feedback on and make that your “uniform”.

Own Your Unique Signature
Since we were born we have all been told, “there is no one like you, you are unique”. I would suggest picking a colour that you love, embodies your personality and compliments your skin tone – again let’s not ignore your body shape. If you are adventurous like me pick a print that you like and stick to it. I wear African print because it represents my heritage and I want to bring some colour to my professional industry, otherwise a sea of black, blue and grey would surround me.

Marry Form And Function
I am a busy working mother who still wants to look stylish so my fashion pieces have to take me from the boardroom to day-care at the flick of a switch.

Seek Inspiration.
If you feel like you are in a style rut and just can’t dig yourself out, why not want to learn from others who are doing it well? Don’t be afraid to do research. Research key people that you admire and influence your style and just unashamedly copy it. For once you won’t get done for plagiarism.

In conclusion, since returning to full-time work from maternity leave, I have worn my personal uniform. The introduction of this theory has had a stabilising effect on my busy and at times chaotic life. Picking and pairing clothing is one less decision I need to make, and honestly I couldn’t be happier!