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November 2017

In My Humble Opinion

Body Goals – What Does That Even Mean?

The picture you see above is of me before I had our beautiful girl. Although if I am honest, in my head I swear I was closer to Naomi Campbell or Beyonce – I guess we all remember things differently. That’s why its important to take pictures, these images keep us all honest. 

How many times have you heard a now heavy set woman say, “Before I had Timmy and Jessie I was a size six, wafer thin“. You try to believe her but you can’t help but give her the side eye, like really?

Body Goals.  

What made it okay for those words to be married?

It is so misleading, adding to women’s already heavy mental load. Just one more thing to tack on to the unrealistic expectations of being a modern superwoman in 2017.

I have watched on as friends, family, and celebrities (are they even human?) have their babies and looked to immediately shed the weight and return to their “prebaby weight”. 

Not me.

I guess everyone is different, I told myself. Easy enough to say, but harder to swallow when that desired outfit doesn’t sit right in the change room or worse still in your own wardrobe – leaving you on the verge of tears.

When I look in the mirror I can see that the weight is shifting – but at a glacial pace. Yes, I am working out (two to three times a week) and mostly eating right but the changes were not as dramatic as my unrealistic mind would have liked.

After months of looking at the same number on the scale, I was just about ready to put my money where my mouth is and enlist the help of a personal trainer. I seriously considered it – but being the Scrooge McDuck that I am – I was still hesitant.

I had made some inquiries with some local personal trainers and was discussing this process with one of my friends. One friend simply asked me – why don’t you get a Fit Bit

To be honest, I had never entertained the idea of getting a Fit Bit – I always thought that I would stay true to my Apple affiliation and purchase an Apple Watch instead. As I did more research it was clear to me that for now, I needed a Fit Bit. The price also kept my pockets lined and that makes me smile.

This is not a paid endorsement but I can tell you that it has been one of the best fitness decisions that I have ever made in my life. 

Owning a fit bit has allowed me to join a real community. There is a group of us who compete in weekly and weekend challenges. Week in week out we compete to be number one. This is just what my competitive soul needed to get me moving and get me out of my mental “I am not losing weight fast enough” slump – each day I am moving more, keeping track of my sleep, what I eat, what I drink etc. 

I am happier and embracing myself. 

All of me.

Turns out it was never about the weight loss – it was more about being active and changing my mental state. Truly accepting that my body had changed. I had a baby. My body created a whole new human that I brought into this world. Things will never go back to the way they once were and I am okay with that especially when I look at my little one. My heart sings.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Your motherhood journey is unique. Embrace it and own it.


My Life

The Travel Questions You Asked And My Answers

We have just returned home from a whirlwind five-week tour of Europe. If you follow my Instagram stories you would have seen that we spent time in Prague, London, Scotland, and Amsterdam. Do you want to know the craziest thing? I really thought that when I was traveling I would be able to blog every other day. How naive I was. We were super busy meeting with family and friends, shopping and exploring our surroundings – oh, and working every day (can’t stop, won’t stop).

Here I am once again coming back to you with a promise to myself and to you to blog more frequently – after all, it is somewhat therapeutic for me to blog.

As I was preparing to write this blog post I thought to myself “what should I write about”? Then I remembered the questions that some of my Instagram followers sent me. A question and answer segment is a perfect way to kickstart my still jetlagged mind and hands.

What was the best moment of the trip? I can think of three things:

  1. Catching up with family and friends. For me, it had been ten plus years since I had been to Europe so it was fascinating to catch up with people and share some great times and immortalize the moments with photographs.
  2. I have followed the royals for years so visiting Buckingham palace was a special moment.
  3. My birthday too was magical – my husband made it one to remember in Amsterdam.

What was the funniest thing that happened? When went out for dinner at Nandos in Scotland and I was a little overzealous with the chili sauce and coleslaw. Long story short – I had to run to the toilet before heading home and endured a very stressful ride home concentrating on not soiling myself and embarrassing myself in front of family.

It certainly wasn’t funny at the time, but hilarious now!

Can you please share what you bought on your trip? This is an interesting question  – a lot of people assumed that I would go crazy shopping – but I practiced incredible restraint. In total, I bought 2 pairs of jeans, 1 black dress, I red coat, 4 wigs and some hair products. My main focus was on purchasing makeup – in Australia, we do not have makeup ranges for people of color like myself. Let’s just say I stocked up for the next two years. From all angles, I will be on fleek!

What did you miss from home? For me it was just space particularly, in the bathroom – I found European bathrooms small. I am of average weight and height and still felt claustrophobic in the bathrooms – imagine if you were bigger?

Of course, family and friends that I left back home – oh and my wardrobe!

Did you have a budget for the trip? We bought all of our tickets, arranged accommodation before we left Australia so the money we had was for shopping, food, and experiences. If I was to monetize the budget it was about 100 pounds a day.

What was the scariest moment? When we were heading back home we had accumulated so much luggage (hubby and bub). I was certain that we were going to have to pay for the excess luggage and I was dreading that moment. We were about 25 kilos over the allowed baggage weight. To my surprise, the kind lady at the counter checked us in and didn’t charge us anything. Praise be to God!

I am going to stop the Question and Answer segment right here because I want to keep the blog posts short and sharp. Everyone else who asked a question and it wasn’t answered here I will personally respond to you shortly.