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Speaking Freely With Faro

When I moved interstate, away from my hometown I suddenly found myself alone. As an adult I now found myself having to try and make new friends. As a wife and mother, this proved to be difficult – lack of spare time was a major factor. Luckily I managed to form some strong connections with other like-minded women online. Today I have the honor of interviewing the beautiful and dynamic – Faro!

Tell us about yourself.
I am a broad-minded, empathetic and emotionally intelligent woman, who’s also a great listener. My personality is poised, confident and of high energy. When it comes to working I am a perfectionist and I have a good eye for detail, only because I believe in doing things well and with the utmost excellence. I smile and laugh a lot. Sometimes I can come off complex because I am candid in the way I speak and behave – I’m not a fence sitter. Apparently, I am very nurturing as well – I’ve heard this from some people I have worked with. I can’t help but be concerned with people’s happiness when they are around me. Funny enough, when translated into English, my name means happiness, go figure.

What is your morning routine?
I usually check for messages from home (Zimbabwe) or check my social media. If I wake up early enough, I stretch out on the floor for a few minutes to align my spine. Then, I’ll either have a cup of tea or take a shower and get dressed. If I have work or school, I do the express version, which is bath-dress-eyebrows-smoothie and out! If my son wakes before me, he opens the curtains and its go time. His routine is less flexible than mine. From bath time to school drop off it’s focusing on him and nurturing his independence skills. In short, my morning routine is my son’s routine.😊

It’s 9am on a Monday. Where are we likely to find you?
In my car! Dropping off Mudiwa at school and recapping my morning on Instagram stories! After that, I’m either driving back home or going for a run at Heidi museum of modern art. It has a beautiful park and in the morning it is quiet and the air is crisp. Other days, I’m either already at work or on my way to work.

How would you describe your journey as a mother?
Beautifully enlightening. I had just turned 21 when I had Mudiwa. My introduction to motherhood came with homelessness and undiagnosed depression, so I became truly happy after having Mudiwa and I immersed myself in motherhood. Motherhood helped me focus on the positive things I had at the time. I love him, and he has taught me what it means to love yourself. When I received his autism diagnosis, I was angry at everything. Why me! My marriage had ended badly, and I needed a break – now this? I learned to take things one day at a time and reward myself for the amazing job I do with him each day. In the beginning, I needed it to make sense and be manual like. I later learned that, like love, it is a mystery that I should be open to and always receive the lessons on a positive note. What happened in between were complex lessons I felt were unfair but the character I have now is one that my mother exalts me above her.

As a single mother, what advice would you give to other single mothers?
* This is the most valuable time in your life to explore what it means to love yourself. Learn it, know it, breathe it and let go.
*As we don’t have the privilege of having a partner, sometimes you must rise to the occasion and be both feminine and masculine. Your masculinity doesn’t make you a man; it is called being a dynamic parent. Adapt.
*Seeking out women in the same position as you are will be a source of inspiration, comfort, and support.
*When it comes to relationships- don’t rush, have clear boundaries and your moral compass is YOURS. Really! It is your own. The only way to know what works is if you try and navigate what sits well with you.
*Always know, anyone coming into your life should add on to what you already have. If they are depleting you, end it. Time is precious. You and your children come first.

What has been the hardest thing for you accept in your adult life?
THE GIFT OF ASKING.
I had a coaching session with my friend Kemi Nekvapil. I had to choose what really bothered me in my life, and work out how to deal with those obstacles. What came up the most was I denied myself the power to ask. If I had a misunderstanding or really needed something, I had the ability to talk myself out of it, whether it worked for me or against me. As a child, I just ran and asked as l pleased, but this it slowly changed as I matured. I have had to unlearn that and exercise my privilege and the power of knowing! It will be uncomfortable in that moment only, but I feel so much better afterward. I have saved myself a great deal by practicing that! There is power in knowing, so please ask.

If I am a single man reading this is and potentially interested in pursuing you, what do I need to know before approaching you?
(insert biggest LOL here) Reading this and talking to me are two different things. I will be very grateful if you are romantic versus being creepy. Don’t Imagine what I am like. Please be respectful and If we have something in common that’s a great starting point to spark a conversation. Be prepared for me to say No and don’t take offense because you have been following me. For the sake of our time, it’s better to start speaking to me than existing in my social world and hope I would recognize you on the street. I am more inclined to like someone I have met in physical form, rather than by chance on social media. If we happen to have friends or acquaintances in common, I will ask about you, but only with good intentions. I value my safety, mental wellbeing and that of my son. I’m rooting for you to do well. Come through!

After a long week, how do you unwind?
I dance a lot. If I can’t sleep, I pop on headphones and dance. I also enjoy driving out and extending my sleeping or resting times to recharge. I reserve that for Mondays. It’s usually quiet compared to the weekend. That being said, I always have my son with me. My definition of unwinding is almost non-existent. It takes meticulous planning.

What is your relationship like with your body?
Nurturing. I drink a lot of water and lot of tea. I also eat larger amounts of nourishing foods (fruits and vegetables). My booty is loyal! After having Mudiwa I had to relearn how I see my body. A temple. My breasts and stomach were never the same. And no one tells you about these changes! It was only a couple of years ago when I wasn’t going to the gym as often as I used to, my body got back to how it was pre-Mudiwa. I love it though. God, I am so beautiful! I can’t imagine looking any different. When I’m naked in the house, I check myself out too. My ass is the only thing I don’t look at as much. It’s always been loyal. Love it! That’s the only thing that never changed!

Tell us about your hair…
I’ve got a short afro. I’ve always had a great relationship with my hair. The amount of content on how to care for our hair is overwhelmingly amazing! I’m always excited at the possibilities of what l can do to style my hair. I prefer natural styles over synthetic hair or wigs. I do use wigs when required, I but prefer my natural hair all other time.

When and why did you decide to go natural?
I’ve always been natural. It was more of a financial and time management decision. After having Mudiwa and coming into my own, I let go of societal norms that often left me high and dry. It didn’t make sense for me to spend that much money and time, over getting therapy for my son. I love seeing the hairstyles people come up with. I no longer have the patience, I guess.

What is your go-to makeup look?
Brows, illuminating primer, mascara and lip gloss/lipstick. Minimal maintenance and clean. #nomakeupmakeuplook #faroflawless lol

How would you describe your personal style?
Feminine and tailored. My body shape demands it. However, I think of myself as being a stylish minimalist and experimental.

What is your go-to fashion outfit?
*I opt for a long summer dress with either a high slit, off shoulder or halter. Must show some skin. Flowing or figure-hugging.
*OMG-these-hoops-are-so-big earrings or omg-these-are-so-tiny-studs
*Artisan sandals or platforms with freshly manicured toes

What are your must-have items in your wardrobe?
A lot of variety! And color. The most underestimated but crucial look is a well-fitting bra and underwear. That is a must! I have at least three bras made of breathable material that can hold you up on a difficult day! I love a good bra – I can’t stress that enough. A stylish fedora- straw hats are trans-seasonal and breathable. Long robes/kaftans that are split in the middle are the best items to lift a basic look. There’s something regal about it. I need to write a book, there’s not enough space for all my must-have items. But I think these often go unappreciated. Oh, and an excellent quality leather belt!

What inspires your style?
How I feel and what I represent moment to moment. Mood certainly inspires my style; relaxed, unwell or active. Sometimes it is the opposite of that. For instance, I might wake up feeling a bit on the left side, but as soon as I put a look together I am ready to step out! As for what I represent; when I am out there with Mudiwa, and as Mudiwa’s mother, I try to dress in a way that we will both feel comfortable. Other times I am full effect Faro – either carefree, or I am being as Zimbabwean as I ought to be, or I am contemporary for the sake of peace. When working in media, the power an outfit has must convey a message that isn’t obvious but will make what is being shown wholesome. Sometimes you don’t even have to say anything because your style speaks for you.

Thank you, Faro for being so candid – a wealth of incredible information. You can find Faro on Instagram.

Photographer & Set Styling – Atong Atem | Styling and Makeup – Faro Musodza

IamTinashe

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Guest Blogger | Agnes Dube

I first saw Agnes on an advert for a new SBS cooking show. I was really excited to see her as we rarely see women from Africa on T.V. so I decided to track her down and find out what she was all about.

How would you describe your food style? My food style is more of the homely kind of cooking. I love bringing the family together.  I love seeing the smiles on people’s faces as they are enjoying my food.

You have had a crappy day at work, what is your go to dinner recipe? My go to dinner is Spaghetti Bolognese. I always make sure I have extra Bolognese sauce in the freezer because even my fussy eating kids love their pasta.

What inspires your cooking? My grandmother – she always cooked with so much love and that is what I do when I cook.

Do you have any traditional food favourites? I definitely have traditional favourites. I love to cook rice with peanut butter and have it with oxtail or ox tongue. Can’t go wrong with that.

For some odd reason, you have committed a crime and are now on death row. What would be your last meal? Entree, main, and dessert?  My last meal would be:
Entrée: Seafood chowder! The best I have had is from George’s Paragon in Brisbane, though I have made my own and I believe I can deliver 😉
Main: That would have to be Crispy skin duck and it has to be Thai because I also love Thai food, though I struggle to replicate Thai flavours.
Dessert: I love sticky date pudding and used to make a lot of it and I put on weight haha

Who is your favourite chef or cooking personality and why? My favourite Chef is Mark Olive from Black Olive. I love how he cooks with traditional Aboriginal flavours and that is what I try to do when I cook Zimbabwean dishes.

You appeared on a cooking reality show on SBS. What was that experience like? I was on a new SBS cooking show called The Chefs’ Line and it was the best experience of my life. I love cooking and I rediscovered my passion after becoming a mum. I used to think I could not cook under pressure but I found I function better under pressure. I was cool, calm, and collected. The whole time we were cooking I was either singing or dancing because I was in my zone. I would definitely do it again because I loved the experience and the atmosphere.

Tell us about your blog I started a blog. My blog is about what I get up to with my 2 beautiful kids and also hints and ideas for other mothers looking for ideas, be it food, travel, or products.

Why did you start your blog? I started it because I wanted to share ideas with other mothers and fathers out there.I hope my blog can reach mothers and fathers out there who are looking for ideas, inspiration and information.

 

Thank you Agnes for sharing your world – we can all learn from each other! You can find Agnes by visiting her blog or following her on Instagram.

IamTinashe

Guest Blogger

How To Spot “Mr. Waste Your Time”.

I felt the anger build up in me as I drove, the devilish thoughts that were going through my head made me think I was going crazy. The thought of pulling up at a sports shop and purchasing a baseball bat crossed mind – it might help me with the ultimate revenge. Yes, I was very angry, but this hasn’t only happened to me. At the age of 32, I feel there are many other women that have experienced this level of anger and the feeling of betrayal in the dating world. Today, I sit here writing this article and thinking one thing – how did I miss the signs? I was dating a “Mr Waste Your Time”. Mr Waste Your Time exists in every culture, draped in gold and sugar coated in everything you’ve ever wanted.

Ladies – when you are dating, what do look for in a man? I ask myself this question every time I go on my first date and now, after so many first dates, I somehow still find myself being attracted – dating even guys I can only describe as, Mr Waste Your Time.

That being said, here are my top ten characteristics you will find in”Mr Waste Your Time:

  1. At the beginning, they say everything you want to hear – sweet nothings. The relationship starts off with constant praise and him telling you everything that’s perfect about you, then once he thinks he has you hooked he will change just like that!
  2. They will lie about their past relationships. They will tell you something like “my wife and I are separated, we have been separated for a while now” or “I’m 34 and I haven’t had many girlfriends”.  Lies, lies, lies.
  3. They won’t commit to a future with you, let alone talk about it. I.e They make every excuse to fight with you about planning future or committing to plans.
  4. Constantly begging for nude photographs or any form of sexual activity. They have so many girls on the go and still want you to “send nudes”, while they are getting sex on the side.
  5. They never want to be seen in public with you. He doesn’t want you to be seen by his other chick, (wife even) or friends.
  6. They try to seclude you from family and friends. He’ll make excuses about how your family members are judging him and it should be just the two of you.
  7. They won’t introduce you to their friends. His friends may give away his little charade he has going on so he won’t bother introducing you.
  8. They manipulate every situation to benefit themselves. You’ll often hear “your friends weren’t nice to me, so I don’t think we should hang out” when your friends only ask the right questions and he is intimidated by them.
  9. They never post any pictures of the two of you on social media. He’s afraid that his other chick/wife will see them
  10. They make up excuses for why they don’t use certain age appropriate social media platforms. He’s likely hiding his current or previous relationships that haven’t ended.

Ladies, in my humble opinion, those are the top 10 signs that you have just met/started dating “Mr Waste Your Time”. The actions of a man will tell you he is really into you. Should he become hot and then cold or the consistency in calls, texts or even time spent together changes – don’t waste your time or settle for second best. A guy who is really into you will do everything in his power to get and keep you.

You can find Ms Tinashe Fay on Instagram dropping knowledge regularly.

Thank you, Tinashe Fay, for your honest and open account – your message should assist those active in the dating world right now.

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Guest Blogger – Grace

Open Instagram discovery page what do you see? Scandalously dressed women doing the most just for a simple LIKE. Sometimes it’s nice to just take a step back to appreciate styles that are more subtle and modest in appearance. Introducing this month’s guest blogger, Grace.
How do you describe yourself? My name is Grace, a Zimbabwean woman who loves dressing up and photography. I’m the second born in a family of four girls. I’m a devoted lover of the color green!

Age: Twenty something

Location: Malaysia

What is your favorite hairstyle? I don’t have a favourite hairstyle, my hair is usually covered up, but underneath the head-wrap is the healthiest hair you’ve ever seen. 

How would you describe your personal style? I have a “chic-elegant-play it safe-you are a queen-so you can experiment-boho” style.

What is your go to fashion outfit? A midi dress, paired with gorgeous heels and a structured handbag. I do love a pair of sunglasses.

What are your must have items in your wardrobe? 

  • A good quality blazer
  • A pair of heels/pumps/coat shoes/stilettos – it depends what you call them
  • A structured handbag
  • Quality sunglasses 
  • A maxi dress , midi dress, and midi or pencil skirt

What inspires your style? My elegance is inspired by mother. She is the most elegant woman I know and the color palette in her wardrobe is ah-mazing. The other aspects of my personal style are inspired by the discoveries I’ve made about myself. I believe self-love inspires some of the outfits I wear. 

5 things about you that the world should know about you:

  • I take photos of anything that I find beautiful, only to delete some of them later;
  • I have a love hate relationship with travelling. I love adventure but sitting for long gets to me sometimes;
  • I fractured a bone once;
  • I can cook for multitudes;
  • I have never been a bridesmaid but I’m hopeful to be one, one day

What is your relationship with your body like? My body is loyal. I hardly get sick. In return to its loyalty I try to eat right. As we speak, I’ve cut out chocolate, cake and fizzy drinks from my diet. I do indulge in ice cream here and there. Generally, I have a great relationship with my body and we’re working on making it greater.

What do you like or don’t like about your body? I don’t like the struggle I’m having with acne on my face and my tummy.

What would you tell your sixteen year old self? It’s okay to be different. It’s even better not to be part of a ‘clique’ or to force yourself into one. Work hard, you don’t have to figure out everything yet. Enjoy being a teen you’ll, soon be paying bills haha. And pray. 

What is your guilty pleasure? Watching tv series episodes all day! Very unproductive, yet so good.

As you can see conservative fashion doesn’t mean frumpy. Grace – thank you showcasing you fashion and allowing us to get to know you. You can learn more about Grace by following her Instagram and blog.

If you would like to be a guest blogger please send me an email and we will make the necessary arrangements.


IamTinashe

Guest Blogger

Noreen – The Woman Behind Chenesai, The Brand.

I have known Noreen for a very long time – she is married to one of my good friends brother. Naturally being around the same age, nurturing a young family whilst working full time we naturally have a lot in common.

Its not secret that I love representing my heritage and I do that by wearing African print in corporate Australia – day in day out. When Noreen launched her brand Chenesai we became even closer. Below I give you the opportunity to get up close and personal with Noreen and get to know the woman behind the brand Chenesai. Lets go!

The Woman.

How would you define your personal style?

I am chic and modern without being overdone!  Simply put, simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.

What is your go to fashion outfit?

Right now, it has to be the ‘Kwese’ Jacket by ‘Chenesai’.  The literal translation of  ‘Kwese’ is everywhere.  I get so many wears from the Kwese jacket, its actually pretty amazing! It is definitely a one of a kind jacket.

What are your wardrobe’s must have items?

  • Reversible wrap dress for my Friday and Sunday
  • Reversible jacket for my Wednesday and Saturday
  • Wide legged pants for my Monday
  • High waist pencil skirt for Tuesday
  • Black dress shirt 
  • -¾  length body Fitted black dress

What are your go to accessories?

  • Small pearl earrings
  • A brooch 

What inspires your style?

Practical everyday life. I internalise my environment, which is then externalised through my style.  So naturally, the economy is a principle to my styling choices. On that point about the economy, I am convinced and have demonstrated that the size of your pocket does not and should not affect your style! In my view, that’s what makes a good stylist …I work well with a surplus or a deficit!

The Brand –  Chenesai

Tell us about Chenesai? 

The African woman of colour has always been a complex multi-faceted being.  For centuries, her survival has been bold, beautiful, and brilliant.  Within her fabric there has always been this profound ability to be the seed of nations, balanced with re-inventing cultures, one generation at a time. My vision with Chenesai is to remember, recover and reveal that which sustains the African woman through the fashion lens.

Why did you start Chenesai?

Chenesai was conceived in 2012 and birthed in December 2016.  I am a trained lawyer with a passion for fashion.  As such, I knew I needed to put time into the fashion industry to understand it and find my place in it.  Essentially, I had to earn my degree.  So, 2012, I founded Nono’s Kouture which offers basic tailoring services, calling ourselves ‘Fashion mechanics’ that ‘dare to be different’.  Four years later, I found my mark and formed my identity – thus the birth of ‘Chenesai’ in December 2016.

What are you hoping to achieve with your brand?

At Chenesai I strive to honour the African woman’s intricate narrative, thread by robust thread, design by innovative design.  I have a ground breaking global appreciation of style, and I am thrilled to invite everyone to personally advance this narrative when they wear ‘Chenesai’.  I am honoured to contribute to meaningful and sustainable fashion.

How can readers get some of your gorgeous pieces?

We invite our current and potential clients to contact us on Instagram @chenesaink or chenesaibrand or email us at chenesaibrand@gmail.com.  Also, find us on WHATSAPP at  +263 718 952 85

Thank you for sharing  Noreen! As a Brand Ambassador for Chenesai, I cant wait to show off the creations you have created for me!

If you or a friend would like to be a guest blogger please do not hesitate to contact me so we can share your  story.

IamTinashe

Guest Blogger

Six Key Questions…

If you read my last blog post you would know that I have recently started a new role – so I have been busy getting into the swing of things.

There is really no room for excuses content must still be uploaded for your viewing pleasure. Which brings me to this months Guest Blogger segment. You guys don’t know this but our guest blogger is working hard behind the scenes as IamTinashe.com’s Creative Director. After years of begging she has finally decided to grace us with her presence and take centre stage as out guest blogger!

Introducing Ta…..

You don’t have to wait till January 1st to take stock of your journey in life thus far. As this month’s guest blogger my aim is to share my thoughts on how to take an introspective look at yourself. Six key questions can help you discover the who, what, when, where, how, and why you are you! The title of this post is an ode to Brandy and makes me think of the past 30 years of my existence and what life has taught me. The question (for me) is overwhelmingly clear- who am I to myself?? I guess I‘ll jump right in!

Who am I?

What identifies you.

Are you a wife (or a husband for our male readers)? A mother or father? A CEO? An artist? A free spirit? What is the essence of you? I am an ‘86 baby who has been driven and motivated by faith, family, close friends and life’s lessons to achieve and become the individual I am today – a daughter; a sister; a wife to be; a friend and a pet owner (read: mother). I am a woman who has accepted all of me and is still learning more with each day that passes.

What am I?

Define your role in your own life.

Your passion- your profession! This could be two-in-one (not the blanket) if you’re one of life’s lucky individuals who has found passion in their profession. I’m a qualified Town Planner, a Commerce graduate, and a Professional Services Consultant. So, I am not what I thought i was going to be (a policy officer/chef), instead I am what God intended me to be (a Boss Lady).

When am I?

Look at your position at this point in time in your life.

Confusing, I know. This didn’t make sense to me either. Until I thought about it. At what point in your life’s timeline are you? We plan where we want to be by a specific time- a manager by age 30; a wife/husband by 32; a parent by 34. Where are you in your life’s timeline?  I am current – I remember my past, where I have come from, what I wanted to achieve by now, and I can plan and see my future and where I am going. I am where I want to be. Appreciate every glorious triumph and every tragic set back and how each has brought you to this exact moment.

Where am I?

Where are you located mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally?

This allows you to reflect on where you want to be. Physically I’m in Australia, in sunny Queensland. My heart (and body) was born and will always be rooted in Zimbabwe. Spiritually I am overjoyed- I am not perfect in my attempt at righteousness, but I am with God. Mentally and emotionally I am happy and I have learnt to build a bridge between each of my locations as they are inter-dependent. So I am physically in Australia- and everywhere in between!

How am I?

Look introspectively- look inside yourself.

Hold a mirror up to your soul and what do you see? I am more than well and more than content. I am happy. And I attribute my happiness to my faith; my love; our puppy; my family; my friends and me.  I have learnt to keep in check with myself and accountable to myself.

Why am I?

This is the most important question (in my humble opinion) – it shapes the answers to all former questions.

What is your purpose? Your calling? Is it self-assigned based on your talents, or is it driven by a higher power? I don’t quite know how to answer this question- and I think that’s ok. It’s an evolving answer. Some days I’m here to change the world – and to raise a litter of puppies (#Dreams #Goals) –  some days I’m ticking the “here” box. However, I know who I am, what I am, where I am, when I am, how I am and the why is coming. I can feel it!!

Love yourself in this moment and allow yourself to see how, what and why you are to yourself.

Ta