When I moved interstate, away from my hometown I suddenly found myself alone. As an adult I now found myself having to try and make new friends. As a wife and mother, this proved to be difficult – lack of spare time was a major factor. Luckily I managed to form some strong connections with other like-minded women online. Today I have the honor of interviewing the beautiful and dynamic – Faro!
Tell us about yourself.
I am a broad-minded, empathetic and emotionally intelligent woman, who’s also a great listener. My personality is poised, confident and of high energy. When it comes to working I am a perfectionist and I have a good eye for detail, only because I believe in doing things well and with the utmost excellence. I smile and laugh a lot. Sometimes I can come off complex because I am candid in the way I speak and behave – I’m not a fence sitter. Apparently, I am very nurturing as well – I’ve heard this from some people I have worked with. I can’t help but be concerned with people’s happiness when they are around me. Funny enough, when translated into English, my name means happiness, go figure.
What is your morning routine?
I usually check for messages from home (Zimbabwe) or check my social media. If I wake up early enough, I stretch out on the floor for a few minutes to align my spine. Then, I’ll either have a cup of tea or take a shower and get dressed. If I have work or school, I do the express version, which is bath-dress-eyebrows-smoothie and out! If my son wakes before me, he opens the curtains and its go time. His routine is less flexible than mine. From bath time to school drop off it’s focusing on him and nurturing his independence skills. In short, my morning routine is my son’s routine.😊
It’s 9am on a Monday. Where are we likely to find you?
In my car! Dropping off Mudiwa at school and recapping my morning on Instagram stories! After that, I’m either driving back home or going for a run at Heidi museum of modern art. It has a beautiful park and in the morning it is quiet and the air is crisp. Other days, I’m either already at work or on my way to work.
How would you describe your journey as a mother?
Beautifully enlightening. I had just turned 21 when I had Mudiwa. My introduction to motherhood came with homelessness and undiagnosed depression, so I became truly happy after having Mudiwa and I immersed myself in motherhood. Motherhood helped me focus on the positive things I had at the time. I love him, and he has taught me what it means to love yourself. When I received his autism diagnosis, I was angry at everything. Why me! My marriage had ended badly, and I needed a break – now this? I learned to take things one day at a time and reward myself for the amazing job I do with him each day. In the beginning, I needed it to make sense and be manual like. I later learned that, like love, it is a mystery that I should be open to and always receive the lessons on a positive note. What happened in between were complex lessons I felt were unfair but the character I have now is one that my mother exalts me above her.
As a single mother, what advice would you give to other single mothers?
* This is the most valuable time in your life to explore what it means to love yourself. Learn it, know it, breathe it and let go.
*As we don’t have the privilege of having a partner, sometimes you must rise to the occasion and be both feminine and masculine. Your masculinity doesn’t make you a man; it is called being a dynamic parent. Adapt.
*Seeking out women in the same position as you are will be a source of inspiration, comfort, and support.
*When it comes to relationships- don’t rush, have clear boundaries and your moral compass is YOURS. Really! It is your own. The only way to know what works is if you try and navigate what sits well with you.
*Always know, anyone coming into your life should add on to what you already have. If they are depleting you, end it. Time is precious. You and your children come first.
What has been the hardest thing for you accept in your adult life?
THE GIFT OF ASKING.
I had a coaching session with my friend Kemi Nekvapil. I had to choose what really bothered me in my life, and work out how to deal with those obstacles. What came up the most was I denied myself the power to ask. If I had a misunderstanding or really needed something, I had the ability to talk myself out of it, whether it worked for me or against me. As a child, I just ran and asked as l pleased, but this it slowly changed as I matured. I have had to unlearn that and exercise my privilege and the power of knowing! It will be uncomfortable in that moment only, but I feel so much better afterward. I have saved myself a great deal by practicing that! There is power in knowing, so please ask.
If I am a single man reading this is and potentially interested in pursuing you, what do I need to know before approaching you?
(insert biggest LOL here) Reading this and talking to me are two different things. I will be very grateful if you are romantic versus being creepy. Don’t Imagine what I am like. Please be respectful and If we have something in common that’s a great starting point to spark a conversation. Be prepared for me to say No and don’t take offense because you have been following me. For the sake of our time, it’s better to start speaking to me than existing in my social world and hope I would recognize you on the street. I am more inclined to like someone I have met in physical form, rather than by chance on social media. If we happen to have friends or acquaintances in common, I will ask about you, but only with good intentions. I value my safety, mental wellbeing and that of my son. I’m rooting for you to do well. Come through!
After a long week, how do you unwind?
I dance a lot. If I can’t sleep, I pop on headphones and dance. I also enjoy driving out and extending my sleeping or resting times to recharge. I reserve that for Mondays. It’s usually quiet compared to the weekend. That being said, I always have my son with me. My definition of unwinding is almost non-existent. It takes meticulous planning.
What is your relationship like with your body?
Nurturing. I drink a lot of water and lot of tea. I also eat larger amounts of nourishing foods (fruits and vegetables). My booty is loyal! After having Mudiwa I had to relearn how I see my body. A temple. My breasts and stomach were never the same. And no one tells you about these changes! It was only a couple of years ago when I wasn’t going to the gym as often as I used to, my body got back to how it was pre-Mudiwa. I love it though. God, I am so beautiful! I can’t imagine looking any different. When I’m naked in the house, I check myself out too. My ass is the only thing I don’t look at as much. It’s always been loyal. Love it! That’s the only thing that never changed!
Tell us about your hair…
I’ve got a short afro. I’ve always had a great relationship with my hair. The amount of content on how to care for our hair is overwhelmingly amazing! I’m always excited at the possibilities of what l can do to style my hair. I prefer natural styles over synthetic hair or wigs. I do use wigs when required, I but prefer my natural hair all other time.
When and why did you decide to go natural?
I’ve always been natural. It was more of a financial and time management decision. After having Mudiwa and coming into my own, I let go of societal norms that often left me high and dry. It didn’t make sense for me to spend that much money and time, over getting therapy for my son. I love seeing the hairstyles people come up with. I no longer have the patience, I guess.
What is your go-to makeup look?
Brows, illuminating primer, mascara and lip gloss/lipstick. Minimal maintenance and clean. #nomakeupmakeuplook #faroflawless lol
How would you describe your personal style?
Feminine and tailored. My body shape demands it. However, I think of myself as being a stylish minimalist and experimental.
What is your go-to fashion outfit?
*I opt for a long summer dress with either a high slit, off shoulder or halter. Must show some skin. Flowing or figure-hugging.
*OMG-these-hoops-are-so-big earrings or omg-these-are-so-tiny-studs
*Artisan sandals or platforms with freshly manicured toes
What are your must-have items in your wardrobe?
A lot of variety! And color. The most underestimated but crucial look is a well-fitting bra and underwear. That is a must! I have at least three bras made of breathable material that can hold you up on a difficult day! I love a good bra – I can’t stress that enough. A stylish fedora- straw hats are trans-seasonal and breathable. Long robes/kaftans that are split in the middle are the best items to lift a basic look. There’s something regal about it. I need to write a book, there’s not enough space for all my must-have items. But I think these often go unappreciated. Oh, and an excellent quality leather belt!
What inspires your style?
How I feel and what I represent moment to moment. Mood certainly inspires my style; relaxed, unwell or active. Sometimes it is the opposite of that. For instance, I might wake up feeling a bit on the left side, but as soon as I put a look together I am ready to step out! As for what I represent; when I am out there with Mudiwa, and as Mudiwa’s mother, I try to dress in a way that we will both feel comfortable. Other times I am full effect Faro – either carefree, or I am being as Zimbabwean as I ought to be, or I am contemporary for the sake of peace. When working in media, the power an outfit has must convey a message that isn’t obvious but will make what is being shown wholesome. Sometimes you don’t even have to say anything because your style speaks for you.
Thank you, Faro for being so candid – a wealth of incredible information. You can find Faro on Instagram.
Photographer & Set Styling – Atong Atem | Styling and Makeup – Faro Musodza